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Ages 18-29
i don't ask for kidness, i don't ask for possitivity, neither to give me hope.All i really ask for is to:
1. Don't say "don't cut" when i do or ssy that i do. Instead say "you can cut if you want to, just don't go too deep, be carefull with arteries and veins."
2. Don't talk about yourself when i am talking about myself, it's not your turn to vent/rant bro.
3. Text first, i am too empty to do so.
4. If the conversation goes dry, keep asking about my emotions or how i feel.
5. Don't tell me how to feel (ex. "Don't be sad" "don't cry.") Instead say "it's ok to be empty." "You can let it all out."
6. Don't give unwanted advice, i don't want a solution to my problems, i don't wanna get better, i wanna get worse and i want you to be there to watch me die.
7. Don't sexualize me, never mention sexual stuff unless i've known for a long time (more than a year) or i start it. And if i stop talking abt sexual stuff, don't push, move on from the topic w me.
8. Don't give me fake possitivity (ex. "It will get better", "you matter.", "there is hope."), it annoys me. Instead say "i care about you" "he cares about you and loves you." "I'll be here, just watching over you, you can do and feel however you want, do whatever you want, i'll be here just watching."
9. Approach me like a feral cat. Expect insults, and deffensiveness, just like a feral cat, you gotta tame and maybe if you approach the right way at the right time you won't get to see the aggresive side of me.
10. If i get deffensive, don't fight back, just understand me and try to understand why i am this way.
11. Don't ask obvious questions, be smart.
12. Don't ask me out until i do, let me take the first step.
13. Never hurt me, even if i ask for it.
14. Don't use caps or be too excited...be calm, soft spoken and as gentle as humanly possible

Ages 18-39
Basically the same as the bf stuff.

What to do when i'm venting(the fact that this was necesary is concerning)
ᴡʜᴀᴛ 𝙉𝙊𝙏 ᴛᴏ sᴀʏ:
"i was there"; relating usually makes it look like you're trying to tell me to get over it, since when you say "i was there" it kinda looks like it would be followed with a "and i got over it", insinuating that js bc your pain is over now i should get over it myself. pain is different for everyone.
asking questions; I will probably answer your question if i keep venting, and even if i don't please wait until i finish to ask questions, it would rlly be nice of you.
Advice or trying to find a solution to my issues; not needed, don't tell me what to do.
"don't cry"; crying is better than cutting, isn't it?, so let me do it, don't tell me how to feel, let the feelings flow.
Ik feelings can be reciprocated but don't start venting when i am venting if you can, if you do try to keep at the same level as mine, without getting over me or on top of me.
"don't cut"; if i want to cut, you telling me not to do it won't make me stop, saying "just be carefull" or "keep them shallow" is a better approach for it.
"i hope it gets better"; sounds like you trying to cut off the conversation right then and there tbh, saying "i will help you through it", is a better approachᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴛᴏ sᴀʏ:
"i won't leave", "it's not your fault", "i'm here for you", "ik it's not easy", "you can cry on my shoulder", "let it all out", "talk/vent/rant to me", "i'm proud of you", "you're doing great" and well etc.

ᴘᴇᴛ ɴᴀᴍᴇs: ask
(female, gender neutral and animal pet names allowed only)
ᴅᴍs: Open but tell me why you dmed
Fʀɪᴇɴᴅ ʀᴇǫᴜᴇsᴛs: selective
ᴛᴏᴜᴄʜ (ʀᴘ): if i start RPing you can continue, but if you wanna start pls ask if you can touch me.
ᴘɪɴɢs: yes please, if you reply on a server pls ping me, do not ping me in dms pls
ᴀᴅᴅ ᴍᴇ ᴛᴏ ɢʀᴏᴜᴘ ᴄʜᴀᴛs: ask
ᴄᴀʟʟ/ᴠɪᴅᴇᴏ ᴄᴀʟʟ: ask
ғʟɪʀᴛ : only if i start it, but i always ask before so please js don't flirt without permission.
ғᴀᴄᴇ ʀᴇᴠs: please do not send me pictures of your face when we js met.
ᴠᴏɪᴄᴇ ʀᴇᴠs: unlike face revs, idm voice revs :))
ᴅɴɪ :
if you glorify, encourage, promote, romanticize or sexualize mental dissorders, self harm, eating dissorders or illegal acts.
if you're part of kleptotwt, cleptotwt, zootwt, pedotwt, or any criminal-supporting subtwts
if you're Anti-recovery
if you're a biggot, ignorant or lack common sense, tenderness and the ability to be gentle to someone pls dni.
Minors can interact everywhere outside of dms, dni in dms.
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everything else is written all over my carrds, just be nice and understanding and we will be fine.